Live and Let her live- Woman the Super-Creature

"Lo Malli, innondu 90 haako bega,  ide ivattu avlige!!! "(hay Malli, give 90 more, she is gonna get it today!!) Shouted Ravi from a  table  in the backside of the bar. "Sumkiranna yake daily ayammange golu hoykontiya" (leave it bro, why do you torture her daily) said innocent Malli, the bartender who knew Ravi for many years now. It was a regular practice for Ravi to drink at Malli's bar, go home and harass his wife as much as possible both physically and mentally everyday for nearly 15 years.

 He would hit her de way he wants for every silly thing in de world.  He would abuse her de way he wants for every move of her. It had become even worse when he had physically tortured his wife on his own daughter's marriage in front of everyone. His wife was almost dead mentally but had survived all these years for the sake of her children.     

                       

 Bhagyamma a 42 year old lady usually woke up at 6 am and  would go to her farm, work for an hour and return back with fortunes like coconuts, vegetables and few others things. As she had a cute daughter, she would cook for her and send her to school with lunch boxes prepared. Once the kid leaves, she would go back to farm again and work till evening. She was doing the same for almost 15 years now. Her husband never cared the farm or anything except that he would make money out of it when needed and gave very less money to family and enjoy his life with the rest.

                                On one GOOD day, as usual Ravi went to bar, got drunk by evening, shouted at Malli and started back to home.  It was almost 9 'o clock in the night; Ravi had lost his control but still managed to ride his bike back home. As soon as he was entering the gates, the great mother and an unlucky wife Bhagyamma heard a loud sound outside her house. She came  outside running to see her husband Ravi lying  on the floor with bike on him. She was terrified by the sight and helped him to stand up.  Before she lifted him up, he shouted  "le neene kane nange shapa hakirodu, ivattu ninna saysine naanu hogodu"  (Hay you have cursed me for which I fell and I am going to kill you today for sure) He pulled her inside, pushed her to the wall, took a belt hanging on the wall and started hitting her with all force he could gather.

                                     Bhagyamma neither reacted nor uttered a single word and not even a drop of tear came out. She had waited for 15 years, her struggles never ended, her poojas never worked, her prayers were never answered by the unseen gods. She had no option but to kill herself. He was still continuing to hit her but at one moment she decided that she wants to live and she will fight for the sake of her daughters, she will fight for the sake of her respect, she will fight for the sake of answers she searched for 15 years.

                                                          Next moment she pushed him out of the house for which Ravi fell rolling on the floor. She then took a huge stone lying on the ground and threw it straight on his head.  She sat all the night outside, she didn't cry nor she didn't shout and she was determined to face the jail for the mistake of marrying a drunkard who would harass her to prove that he is a man. She had hit back and the next moment Ravi was out of her life.15 years of her torture had come to an end. She had just killed her only witness who tortured her for life. For people it was a murder, for media it became news, for police it was a crime but for Bhagyamma it was the answer for her problems. She was arrested but she dared and agreed that she killed her husband. In our India there are no rules written to protect the sacrifice of a mother who took the unbearable pain almost every day for the sake of her daughter and lived with the monster for 15 long years. But in the same India there is lot of moral support and resource to overcome these hurdles to help all the troubled women out there. 

                                   Women are the most beautiful super-creatures created by god. Dear super creatures, bring out the super woman in you and fight this evil. Be it rape, be it harassment or be it abuse, fight back and there are sensible men out there to stand by you and support. Never sacrifice your life and never bear physical harassment. Come out and report it before it takes you over and you lose the battle. Punish the men who do it and punish the way he should be punished rather than getting yourself caught in the nest of legal rules and regulations. Let the honesty and truth prevail before the rules and regulations act their part.

PS:  This article is written based on my findings on an incident nearby my village few years back and there are no intentions of questioning the legal system.Imagination has played its part as well. But this article is written to encourage women to fight against any form of physical harassment legally as early as possible with courage.

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